Growing up, I was told, I should finish school, work, have a husband, house, kids and the list goes and on and on. Society told me to have a timeline, study says the BEST age to be this and that is like this and that.
I was this teenager who placed myself on the "ideal" timeline of what society dictates. And so at 18, I had my life all planned out by hook or by crook by this and that, I should be this and that.
Friends, family, classmates, co-workers, as if its a hymn, so, are you still single? I have to tell you this part where my Father told me, "you are on the right age, if you have someone, you can tell us openly" and I laughed hard (literally). My Father thought, I'm keeping secrets from them ( i live abroad), so they really don't have a glance of what my life here is like, I don't blame them, knowing the current trend in the place that I live, I know they don't want me to be mislead for they love me so much ( super convicted with the truth it holds).
In our company, we have group chats and one of which occurred that really saddened me was, one of the male members tagged my girl colleague and typed this, "so girl, when are you going to get married, hurry up, your ovaries are expiring", and male members comments flooding in and tagging more girls from the group.
See how one, can predetermine ones validity? It's sad, is it not? And look at how (though not all) woman are being seen and treated, woman as a commodity. I have this theory why we see "woman" fall on situations we see now, is because we patterned ourselves with the "timeline" the society demanded.
There's this friend of mine who posted on one of his social media accounts, it says something like this, "she's too picky that's why she's still single", ( mind you, this friend of mine is a kind and has good relations to females), gives a statement like that, it does not necessarily makes him bad, NO.
But that statement again saddened me, maybe, just may be (I can always be wrong), that's why there's a lot of woman falling into wrong relations, is because of the fear that they would not "fit", so they will not be left behind, we could easily reason out "everyone's doing it", don't we?
We could easily be persuaded by how the secular world moves. It's sad (im being repetitive), see how one can expire on mans eyes, and how values can be blamed on the choices that one makes.
I don't judge nor condemn these women, I sincerely don't, but my heart aches for them. Because we are made for more and most of us settles for less. We can always hear someone say. "well, I don't care, this is my life, I will do whatever I want, but if one does not care, then why are those affairs being kept in secret?
I will never forget how one told me, "I don't want them to know, I'm holding on to my integrity", these are the things in which, I really have hard time understanding. If integrity is very important, then why was it not given priority.
I could not give nor entitled to give an answer, people have their own reasons, but is it worth it?
My friends are having conversation about their relations and I was just listening, my opinion was not asked so I remained silent. But what she said made me wonder, she said, "for one to move-on, one needs another man". I was 50/50 on that statement part me of me saying no and the other yes. So, I looked back with my life, and it's also true with me. Indeed, one needs a man, and I must admit, I am beyond blessed and graced for me to encounter not an ordinary man, but a God-Man, Jesus Christ my King, my Lord and God.
Give Jesus a chance to enter into your life and He will tell you who you really are, that you are His beloved, that you are beautiful and no flaw ( Song of Solomon 4:7), He will not use you, He loves you, wants to restore you, heal you and free you from your slavery into whatever captivity you are having. Jesus calls us by our name not by our sins, that He calls us His beloved and shed His precious blood, body, divinity and soul on the cross to tell us who we really are.
"You were brought at a price" (1 Corinthian 6:20), that's our worth, we are not the sum of what the society says we are. We are His beloved but hardly believe that, but its true, and it occurred and we remember it during the Annunciation and fulfilling the expression of His love through His passion. May we ask God the grace to fully believe and live in this truth that we all are, a daughter of The one true King and an heir to His Kingdom and not settling on a lesser definition other than this.
That we be freed from this choking "timeline" we try to fit, that we be able to be graced to fully surrender that its not in our hands, but of Gods. That we pray and hope for the promises that our faithful God has for us, a land flowing with milk and honey (Deuteronomy 6:3), that He is a good good Father, who only wills what is best for us.
"When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.”
And this quote by Venerable Fulton Sheen lifts my soul 500 times. Be not afraid, take care my beloved and let not your soul be lost. I am with you in this, Nats.
Here is a very beautiful clip from Venerable Bishop Fulton Sheen.
P.S. Photo not mine
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